Tip #117: How To Stop Being Afraid Of The Future

So important for everyone to remember! X

1000 Ways To Be Fearless

Tip #117: See the uncertainty of the future as a blessing in a very terrible disguise.

The Why: I must admit, even when writing the title of this particular tip, I was uncertain that it was truly possible.

Get it? No? Anyway…

You see, the future is commonly thought as the anxious persons absolute worst nightmare.

So many of our worries, or as I like to call them, the ever-growing-ever-whirling-vortex-of-fear-and-panic-inside-my brain-ies, are based on the possibilities of the future.

The many ‘what-ifs’ that the world has to offer.

You may ask yourself questions like: “what if this terrible thing happens? What if that terrible thing happens? What if both of those terrible things happen at once? What if both of those terrible things happen at once and I’m somehow also naked and in public?”

Because the future has so many unknowns, there is so much more to worry about. So…

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Life and all that jazz

For those of you who have had a poop day

Some days are complete poop. Or poop with extra toppings just because. Other days there may be that same poop but with other reasons as to why it feels/ has gone like that eg you find out some bad news or may have forgotten a chunk of things on your to-do list that didn’t get sorted within your time-frame. This is okay, we are human after all we weren’t designed to be robots with no sense of anything. 

Some days we are full of beans. Or beans on toast with some luscious butter underneath to add extra softness and taste. These days may go amazingly well for no particular reason; just as a different day you may get the same ecstatic feeling of happiness from watching a child telling a favourite joke to their friend, or passing by a beautiful, scented flower on your way home. This too is human, to be able to understand joy expressed inwardly or outwardly through various parts of day to day life. 

However, what is not okay, is to feel as though you are having too much of the first days as we weren’t put on this amazing earth to spend it having a horrible time or feeling as though nothing is going right for you – day in day out.  Life is a balance of both of these days and although we can’t guess our future or sometimes try to control how our life will pan out, the only realistic thing we can do is decide to change our way of thinking about it.

What we have for certain is right now, so we need to focus more on the present but just don’t forget your past and your future. Of course those other two parts play a role in shaping your life, but you define your life daily, by the actions you take and the words you speak.

If you are personally struggling with persistently bad days and don’t feel you can cope, or if you possibly feel numb and unable to feel/express different types of feelings well  – I would strongly suggest that you should go to your GP or with someone you trust to see her/him to talk about your mental health.  With there being so much stigma around mental health, people tend to just try and get on with things or not go after the support they need and rightly deserve. There’s so many people I know who cannot always get the help they need; because they may feel judged by others, or that there isn’t a lot of help left in mental health due to cuts from the government anyway. This is why we need to talk about mental health more often, to allow people to feel they are not alone and that things will get better with time, support and strong set of shoulders to lean on and that they are not being looked upon as ‘weaker’ they are quite the opposite.

So here’s me saying I’m sending love and hugs to all!
I hope you have a fabulous weekend and you are welcome to message me,if you want any extra support or tips or where you can go to for some professional help.

For anyone’s poop day here is a virtual bear hug to you for being an amazing human and still being here today, you rock!!

Keep being your best self 🙂

Lottie x


Spread your wings and explore

Essential skincare and hair products I like to use for travel

Below are the usual items I like to take with me on hol – feel free to minus or add more into your own travel mix, depending on your luggage capacity and your general preferences of course!

For me personally having naturally curly thick hair, I need to make sure I keep it properly hydrated when spending time in the sea or pool 🙂 So asides from your regular shampoo and conditioner I generally have 2 options:

  1. I like to do two hair masks in the week for 2-3 hours whether in or out of water , with either avocado or coconut oil to prevent dryness and split ends. Then I would wash out with regular shampoo and conditioner, from there you could then let your hair dry naturally or add heat protection and style as you desire.
  2. Alternatively, every other day I could use the touch of silver conditioner in the morning and leave it on throughout the day and apply small amounts of either oil to the ends of my hair for added smoothness (and as a de-frizzer depending upon the humidity of your location ) and either leave in later or wash out the next day if your hair has a tendency for dryness at times.


Clearly, you can stick to the basics with a face wipe if you’ve had a long day and you want to take the easy option before bed (I do sometimes just this if in a lazy mood, then plonk myself down with a good book ), but if possible use a general make-up remover or micellar water with a cotton pad as it is kinder to your skin. Next, take another cotton pad and wipe with toner fluid to catch any sneaky bits still refusing to come off and freshen up your complexion. Then it’s your choice as to whether you prefer to leave your skin as it is overnight or add a regular moisturiser, just as this one contains SPF 15 I apply mine in the morning for the day ahead 🙂

It’s completely up to you whether you choose to go make-up free on hol and are just protecting yourself from the rays, or if you enjoy still wearing your normal amount of make-up each day. Personally, I like to try and not apply anything in the day on hol, then add it for an evening dinner –  but it’s always handy to keep some concealer nearby as a handy grab for throughout your day.



So there we have it, my essential hair and skincare products for whilst you’re up and away, feel free to let me know your thoughts or send me a message with any future posts you’d like to see.

Love always,

Lottie x

Life and all that jazz

Jade Francesca’s MUA | Going out look no.1

Need some inspiration for your nights out and cocktails I hear? Look no further than Jade’s insta/fb  ( @jademua1 ) https://www.facebook.com/jademua1/   page and book an appointment or maybe even just observe her techniques and  ask about colour combinations. She’s really talented and easy to talk to, you cannot go wrong!

Without any further ado, here’s Jade’s cut crease look on myself a few days back with a cranberry smokes and gold glitter creation, topped off with winged liner and tatti lashes to compliment this glam look 🙂

Jade's makeup 1


Jade's makeup2


Let us know if you like this look and have any other suggestions to try,

love always,

Lottie X



https://tattilashes.co.uk/ go find fab lashes over here! 🙂

Life and all that jazz

Why I hate the term ‘special’ for children with additional needs

Like childhood isn’t hard enough for the young with the different challenges it presents on the road to adulthood. Some extra frisbee’s are thrown at children with additional needs – whether they may be on the autistic spectrum, have dyslexia, EBD or mobility difficulties or any other additional need. It can make the journey somewhat a less than smooth road than others.

The gifted and talented are also under this title, as they are sometimes not pushed enough to their ultimate potential. Therefore this holds them back from chasing and gaining their individual higher ability targets, in the same way that other individuals are often not given enough support to achieve what they desire with a little helping hand to achieve to their fullest goals no matter what they might be.

Labelling and the consequences of this action can be really damaging to any individual regardless as to whether it is meant with a good intention or not. Being classed as a ‘special needs child’ in the classroom whether upon the individual hears it being said, or sees it written down in paperwork has an isolating effect on that child both mentally and socially.

Mentally that child sees that they have been somewhat distinguished as different to the rest of the children in their environment and almost always is accompanied by negative associations. Just a few consequences to name-from some of what I have viewed; destroyed self-esteem thinking they are not capable of attempting/finishing a task incase the answer goes wrong and may be too anxious to ask for help, completely avoiding some topics of difficulty because these children do not want to feel as though they can’t accomplish a piece of set work if they are really struggling with it, displaying self destructive behaviour in order to bring attention away from their work even if they end up being told off . It seems a preferred option to some incorrect/misunderstood work being looked over and discussed, because the child does not want to be the receiver of critical feedback about their work when they have already been made to feel separated and less capable than the other children. Positive praise is often used in these circumstances where an individual is refusing to work or is struggling and support is given, however more needs to be done to further integrate lesson plans with additional needs children in mind so as not to make them feel excluded or less talented than any other child in the class. Often that individual will then grow up with a mindset that there will be a cap on what they can achieve when looking at others they know , might be getting up to and therefore not set out to follow their dreams if their self confidence has been diminished by others causing them to believe there would be no point in trying anyway which is most certainly a sad situation. Every child has the world ahead of them.

Socially friendship groups can be become somewhat to severely affected depending upon the type of need the individual has and how it displays itself in that person. For example a child with autism may struggle to maintain certain friendships that cause them a lot off stress or embarrassment or become quite confused by some slang terms or playful sarcasm as communication can be a great difficulty a lot of things are interpreted very literally. If children are making jokes which involve a required amount of thinking and some light humour a child with autism may find it hard to understand the difference between a joke or an actual indirect insult being thrown their way. There can also be several degrees and a variety of formats of bullying that take place aimed at the young – specifically to try and ‘trick’ a person into a situation or to become peer pressured into something they know the other person might not understand isn’t healthy for them (whether that be the mind or the body. ) That individual may also struggle to operate in the community on their own most effectively if they struggle to converse with members of the public or having to talk to somebody they don’t know, but could be a real blessing to anybody if the right support is given to help that person be the best version of them self whatever it requires.

As we all know anyway, somebody having an additional need or several for whatever reason that may be –  does not mean that person is any less able to carry out the same roles and responsibilities as others their age, it simply means that the person just requires a little something to help them reach their goals and tackle any struggles with some guidance or resources. Too often in society it is sometimes spoken about as though the person is never going to manage some life milestones at the time society expects them to be performed as I have seen this happen to people I am close too. This should not be happening! Each person is unique and beautiful beyond closed minded opinions, so there should be no comparisons between individuals’ capabilities. After all not one person was created to be a replica of anyone else, we’re all talented in multiple ways and for good reason rant over 🙂

Love always,

Lottie x

Life and all that jazz

A poem for the young – The Ladybird’s train journey

The ladybird’s train journey

Pressed against the window,
eyes wide open to the outdoors.                             Ladybird and the window

Small dog passing by take note –
He’s got quite sharp, alarming claws!

Rattling along the worn out rails,
this is quite an adventure oh my!

If only I was in dream land too,
with an apple and blackberry pie!

It’s been quite a fun time out with my friends today,
I’ve not stopped laughing for the last half hour.

I’ve had some pretty strange looks from the humans though,
but not all of those people are sour.

Not long until I’m home now,
then I’ll pop the kettle on for some tea.

Or maybe visit Mrs. Ant’s new home for scones and jam,
I’m quite a busy bee!

It’s sunny outside as I leave the train,
I wave goodbye to my friends.

Down past the brook and right of the valley,
the train disappears around the bend.


Hope you all have a fab week, thought I’d have a little change from my regular post styles pointing towards a different age range! 🙂

Lots of love as always,

Lottie x

Life and all that jazz

Appreciation post – Ariana Grande

WOW. Is there anything Ariana can’t do?

The amount of support this 23 year old has gathered in a short time frame, just shows what strength humanity has when it seems to many that all is lost, that actually we have everybody’s back and everything will Be Alright.

No matter the amount of acts, terrorists will try to use, to intimidate or make nations think they should wholly fear them, her actions from the word go after the Manchester attack show that evil never wins. Ever. When they try to scare the public and manipulate those in power to their will through such cowardly acts, what do they presume will be the outcome?! Ariana like many others in this country and beyond, proved to those who commit such actions, that our souls will not be broken or damaged as they desire, but instead we will rise up and let the fire of love, compassion and nurturing Break Free among everybody because we refuse to let them win, we come back stronger and more determined.

The number of people coming together in the name of love and making the best of a bad situation is truly heartwarming to see. Everybody has so much to offer. From the medical teams who have worked hard to save those affected by the attacks, have worked some real wonders at hospital; likewise the police force quickly responding to the situation, to Steve the homeless man providing comfort and reassurance, city folk offering up places to stay for those who were lost or had nowhere to go, cafes offering free meals, celebrities and artists paying tributes, music joining everybody together, red cross immediately raising awareness and providing help.  the dancing policeman providing joy and laughter to those at the benefit concert.

To all the families who have suffered at the hands of IS and felt the world crumbling down around them – Ariana’s quick response to the attacks with her determination and passion to do something big about it,  has given something back to those families and individuals who won’t have quite the same life again as before the attacks. It won’t take away the hurt and the pain of a lost soul, but it shows that even in the toughest of times there is always hope for positive things ahead. Even if your current situation has caused you to fall and hit rock bottom, you will in time be able to stand up again.

Those families and friends  affected will not be beaten and stay there. Instead, they are fighting back murder with love for others and getting back up from the floor with huge amounts of support, donations and show-stopping performance’s at Ariana’s One Love Manchester benefit concert. It really is a large hat’s off ,to such a young woman in the music industry to show lost loved one’s a party from heaven, with a night dedicated entirely to them listening to the beautiful songs from up above One Last Time. Thank you, Ariana.


Don’t let them divide us, we all stand together in love.  ” The Lord is my strength and my song” Exodus 15:2


Keep being you,

love from Lottie x









and further to the point our hope for the nation to become even stronger together with all our differences

Books, Life and all that jazz

LONE WOLF – book review

Hi there again,

I must apologise, ILone Wolf‘ve been gone a little while as I wasn’t too well, had a  fever and shaky times, but good now!!

I wanted to tell you about one of the books I’ve read recently which is quite different to any others I’ve tried before. As you’ve probably guessed from the title itself – spoiler alert – the book does involve wolves,  but yes it is a cracking piece of fiction also in relation to the human world so let’s go!

Title: Lone Wolf

Author: Jodi Picoult

My thoughts upon reading this book: 

At first I wasn’t totally gripped by the beginning of the story if I’m completely honest it didn’t take my breath away in the first few pages,  but I was intrigued enough to continue reading. Then decided it was definitely going be a treasure so began reading this more frequently as the plot became more complex and you could see fractions of the puzzle starting to come together.

One of my favourite things about Jodi’s writing is how she effortlessly manages to become each character in the story, writing volumes of detail about each of their thoughts . Similarly,  how aware she is of how one character may be feeling inclined towards another and express it so smoothly to her audience, transitioning tones between such gripping situations with both sensitivity and complete defiance, depending upon the characters role helping feed into the plot.

General summary:

A father is lying is his hospital bed in a bad state, his previously fresh bill of health now left reeling from a severe car crash, from which he was lucky to be saved.  As he lies in a coma his daughter and son are left to come to a decision about his life support. However, the family broke down many years back, so all is not out in the air regardless, especially trying to come to a critical conclusion together for the sake of saving/ not saving a life.

Her brother has been living in a different country for several years with next to no contact, although nobody knows quite why he picked up and left that day, when he spoke to Luke their father and claimed he was not returning home. Does he have something to say the others should know of?

Cara the daughter herself, is living between both her Mum’s new family and daughters before heading off to live with her Dad for a while and his pack of wolves. She knows all about being headstrong and learning to adapt to new places and people and could tell you the different members of a pack in under a minute. She can also see how dearly her Dad loves his job outdoors and wouldn’t seemingly want to live a life stuck in a bed all day unable to be with his pack or nurture young animals back to health.

What does Georgie his ex-wife have to say about all this? How is she going to try and keep both her daughter and son happy if they both have different opinions? Hadn’t she just settled into her new family life, before this situation bulldozed into her recent few years of newly married bliss?

With tension building as the past catches up with everybody, there’s bound to be some twists and turns in the road whilst their Dad is still sleeping, but what will the outcome of it all be?


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Let me know if you have any book recommendations to try and if you have any I should definitely read this summer!! Also if you like this review style and would like to see more please like and share with family and friends. I’m also more than happy to hear your feedback to improve my posts from beginner, so just let me know and I’ll be glad to hear from you!!

Best wishes,

love from Lottie x

Writing/reading about happiness

Shots of happiness | Flowers edition

I don’t know about you but I just love spending time outside whether that’s; out in your garden, at a lakeside, in a forest, at a reserve or on the beach. There’s something just so refreshing about the cool air blowing against your cheeks, or the soft pitter patter of raindrops upon the ground – likewise a gorgeously sunny day setting off a scenic area, making it look more picturesque than ever.

This week hasn’t been particularly sunny in England , but that doesn’t mean there isn’t still beauty surrounding us even just a few footsteps outside of our door. So here’s some flowers I liked to look at this week, we mustn’t forget that there’s beauty in everyday although the news mostly shows us otherwise. Please don’t forget to take at least 20 mins each day, to really thoroughly live in the present moment and have a good look at what’s around you.  Hope you all have a fab week and let me know your favourite places to spend time in the outdoors!!


Don’t forget to follow back ! 🙂 Let me know which other ‘shots of happiness’ you’d like to start seeing and I’ll do my best!

See you again soon!! Love from Lottie x