Life and all that jazz

Giveawayyyyy time * pump fist moment*

So I’ve been thinking recently – I would like to host a giveaway for you guys helping me to get started on this blogging venture,  whilst getting to know a tiny bit more about you lovely people!!

Who fancies a prize???         ” Hands up, baby, hands up
gimme your heart, gimme,
gimme your heart” ~ Ottawan   ( starts dancing and throwing                                                                                                                     arms about at the desk                                                                                                                               CRINGEEEE )

As with all giveaways there is a call to action to be in with a chance of winning the prizes! The first prize is a surprise for now (will be revealed at a later date is worth £15 ) but fits in with the theme of my blog, whilst the runner up will receive a £5 Amazon voucher.

Ready to get started? Here are the entry requirements:

  1.  Follow the twitter account linked to my blog
  2.  Post a picture of whom or what made you smile today, or in this last week with the hashtag 

                                  #smileeachnewdaygiveaway

 

I will reveal the winner on 15th August, so go go go!

Have a fab week,

love from Lottie xo

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Tip #117: How To Stop Being Afraid Of The Future

So important for everyone to remember! X

1000 Ways To Be Fearless

Tip #117: See the uncertainty of the future as a blessing in a very terrible disguise.

The Why: I must admit, even when writing the title of this particular tip, I was uncertain that it was truly possible.

Get it? No? Anyway…

You see, the future is commonly thought as the anxious persons absolute worst nightmare.

So many of our worries, or as I like to call them, the ever-growing-ever-whirling-vortex-of-fear-and-panic-inside-my brain-ies, are based on the possibilities of the future.

The many ‘what-ifs’ that the world has to offer.

You may ask yourself questions like: “what if this terrible thing happens? What if that terrible thing happens? What if both of those terrible things happen at once? What if both of those terrible things happen at once and I’m somehow also naked and in public?”

Because the future has so many unknowns, there is so much more to worry about. So…

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Life and all that jazz

For those of you who have had a poop day

Some days are complete poop. Or poop with extra toppings just because. Other days there may be that same poop but with other reasons as to why it feels/ has gone like that eg you find out some bad news or may have forgotten a chunk of things on your to-do list that didn’t get sorted within your time-frame. This is okay, we are human after all we weren’t designed to be robots with no sense of anything. 

Some days we are full of beans. Or beans on toast with some luscious butter underneath to add extra softness and taste. These days may go amazingly well for no particular reason; just as a different day you may get the same ecstatic feeling of happiness from watching a child telling a favourite joke to their friend, or passing by a beautiful, scented flower on your way home. This too is human, to be able to understand joy expressed inwardly or outwardly through various parts of day to day life. 

However, what is not okay, is to feel as though you are having too much of the first days as we weren’t put on this amazing earth to spend it having a horrible time or feeling as though nothing is going right for you – day in day out.  Life is a balance of both of these days and although we can’t guess our future or sometimes try to control how our life will pan out, the only realistic thing we can do is decide to change our way of thinking about it.

What we have for certain is right now, so we need to focus more on the present but just don’t forget your past and your future. Of course those other two parts play a role in shaping your life, but you define your life daily, by the actions you take and the words you speak.

If you are personally struggling with persistently bad days and don’t feel you can cope, or if you possibly feel numb and unable to feel/express different types of feelings well  – I would strongly suggest that you should go to your GP or with someone you trust to see her/him to talk about your mental health.  With there being so much stigma around mental health, people tend to just try and get on with things or not go after the support they need and rightly deserve. There’s so many people I know who cannot always get the help they need; because they may feel judged by others, or that there isn’t a lot of help left in mental health due to cuts from the government anyway. This is why we need to talk about mental health more often, to allow people to feel they are not alone and that things will get better with time, support and strong set of shoulders to lean on and that they are not being looked upon as ‘weaker’ they are quite the opposite.

So here’s me saying I’m sending love and hugs to all!
I hope you have a fabulous weekend and you are welcome to message me,if you want any extra support or tips or where you can go to for some professional help.

For anyone’s poop day here is a virtual bear hug to you for being an amazing human and still being here today, you rock!!

Keep being your best self 🙂

Lottie x

 

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Essential skincare and hair products I like to use for travel

Below are the usual items I like to take with me on hol – feel free to minus or add more into your own travel mix, depending on your luggage capacity and your general preferences of course!

For me personally having naturally curly thick hair, I need to make sure I keep it properly hydrated when spending time in the sea or pool 🙂 So asides from your regular shampoo and conditioner I generally have 2 options:

  1. I like to do two hair masks in the week for 2-3 hours whether in or out of water , with either avocado or coconut oil to prevent dryness and split ends. Then I would wash out with regular shampoo and conditioner, from there you could then let your hair dry naturally or add heat protection and style as you desire.
  2. Alternatively, every other day I could use the touch of silver conditioner in the morning and leave it on throughout the day and apply small amounts of either oil to the ends of my hair for added smoothness (and as a de-frizzer depending upon the humidity of your location ) and either leave in later or wash out the next day if your hair has a tendency for dryness at times.

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Clearly, you can stick to the basics with a face wipe if you’ve had a long day and you want to take the easy option before bed (I do sometimes just this if in a lazy mood, then plonk myself down with a good book ), but if possible use a general make-up remover or micellar water with a cotton pad as it is kinder to your skin. Next, take another cotton pad and wipe with toner fluid to catch any sneaky bits still refusing to come off and freshen up your complexion. Then it’s your choice as to whether you prefer to leave your skin as it is overnight or add a regular moisturiser, just as this one contains SPF 15 I apply mine in the morning for the day ahead 🙂

It’s completely up to you whether you choose to go make-up free on hol and are just protecting yourself from the rays, or if you enjoy still wearing your normal amount of make-up each day. Personally, I like to try and not apply anything in the day on hol, then add it for an evening dinner –  but it’s always handy to keep some concealer nearby as a handy grab for throughout your day.

 

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So there we have it, my essential hair and skincare products for whilst you’re up and away, feel free to let me know your thoughts or send me a message with any future posts you’d like to see.

Love always,

Lottie x

Life and all that jazz

Jade Francesca’s MUA | Going out look no.1

Need some inspiration for your nights out and cocktails I hear? Look no further than Jade’s insta/fb  ( @jademua1 ) https://www.facebook.com/jademua1/   page and book an appointment or maybe even just observe her techniques and  ask about colour combinations. She’s really talented and easy to talk to, you cannot go wrong!

Without any further ado, here’s Jade’s cut crease look on myself a few days back with a cranberry smokes and gold glitter creation, topped off with winged liner and tatti lashes to compliment this glam look 🙂

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Let us know if you like this look and have any other suggestions to try,

love always,

Lottie X

 

 

https://tattilashes.co.uk/ go find fab lashes over here! 🙂

Life and all that jazz

Why I hate the term ‘special’ for children with additional needs

Like childhood isn’t hard enough for the young with the different challenges it presents on the road to adulthood. Some extra frisbee’s are thrown at children with additional needs – whether they may be on the autistic spectrum, have dyslexia, EBD or mobility difficulties or any other additional need. It can make the journey somewhat a less than smooth road than others.

The gifted and talented are also under this title, as they are sometimes not pushed enough to their ultimate potential. Therefore this holds them back from chasing and gaining their individual higher ability targets, in the same way that other individuals are often not given enough support to achieve what they desire with a little helping hand to achieve to their fullest goals no matter what they might be.

Labelling and the consequences of this action can be really damaging to any individual regardless as to whether it is meant with a good intention or not. Being classed as a ‘special needs child’ in the classroom whether upon the individual hears it being said, or sees it written down in paperwork has an isolating effect on that child both mentally and socially.

Mentally that child sees that they have been somewhat distinguished as different to the rest of the children in their environment and almost always is accompanied by negative associations. Just a few consequences to name-from some of what I have viewed; destroyed self-esteem thinking they are not capable of attempting/finishing a task incase the answer goes wrong and may be too anxious to ask for help, completely avoiding some topics of difficulty because these children do not want to feel as though they can’t accomplish a piece of set work if they are really struggling with it, displaying self destructive behaviour in order to bring attention away from their work even if they end up being told off . It seems a preferred option to some incorrect/misunderstood work being looked over and discussed, because the child does not want to be the receiver of critical feedback about their work when they have already been made to feel separated and less capable than the other children. Positive praise is often used in these circumstances where an individual is refusing to work or is struggling and support is given, however more needs to be done to further integrate lesson plans with additional needs children in mind so as not to make them feel excluded or less talented than any other child in the class. Often that individual will then grow up with a mindset that there will be a cap on what they can achieve when looking at others they know , might be getting up to and therefore not set out to follow their dreams if their self confidence has been diminished by others causing them to believe there would be no point in trying anyway which is most certainly a sad situation. Every child has the world ahead of them.

Socially friendship groups can be become somewhat to severely affected depending upon the type of need the individual has and how it displays itself in that person. For example a child with autism may struggle to maintain certain friendships that cause them a lot off stress or embarrassment or become quite confused by some slang terms or playful sarcasm as communication can be a great difficulty a lot of things are interpreted very literally. If children are making jokes which involve a required amount of thinking and some light humour a child with autism may find it hard to understand the difference between a joke or an actual indirect insult being thrown their way. There can also be several degrees and a variety of formats of bullying that take place aimed at the young – specifically to try and ‘trick’ a person into a situation or to become peer pressured into something they know the other person might not understand isn’t healthy for them (whether that be the mind or the body. ) That individual may also struggle to operate in the community on their own most effectively if they struggle to converse with members of the public or having to talk to somebody they don’t know, but could be a real blessing to anybody if the right support is given to help that person be the best version of them self whatever it requires.

As we all know anyway, somebody having an additional need or several for whatever reason that may be –  does not mean that person is any less able to carry out the same roles and responsibilities as others their age, it simply means that the person just requires a little something to help them reach their goals and tackle any struggles with some guidance or resources. Too often in society it is sometimes spoken about as though the person is never going to manage some life milestones at the time society expects them to be performed as I have seen this happen to people I am close too. This should not be happening! Each person is unique and beautiful beyond closed minded opinions, so there should be no comparisons between individuals’ capabilities. After all not one person was created to be a replica of anyone else, we’re all talented in multiple ways and for good reason rant over 🙂

Love always,

Lottie x

Life and all that jazz

A poem for the young – The Ladybird’s train journey

The ladybird’s train journey

Pressed against the window,
eyes wide open to the outdoors.                             Ladybird and the window

Small dog passing by take note –
He’s got quite sharp, alarming claws!

Rattling along the worn out rails,
this is quite an adventure oh my!

If only I was in dream land too,
with an apple and blackberry pie!

It’s been quite a fun time out with my friends today,
I’ve not stopped laughing for the last half hour.

I’ve had some pretty strange looks from the humans though,
but not all of those people are sour.

Not long until I’m home now,
then I’ll pop the kettle on for some tea.

Or maybe visit Mrs. Ant’s new home for scones and jam,
I’m quite a busy bee!

It’s sunny outside as I leave the train,
I wave goodbye to my friends.

Down past the brook and right of the valley,
the train disappears around the bend.


 

Hope you all have a fab week, thought I’d have a little change from my regular post styles pointing towards a different age range! 🙂

Lots of love as always,

Lottie x